what people told me

people told me: when you get married, it's over.
instead of your dreams you are living for, you will be living for his.
I used to worry.
I worried that I would never go to Paris and eat Macarons for breakfast and learn to paint and ride a bicycle with a basket on the front.
I worried that I would never live in New York and build a career where I could wear Ferragamo's and design houses, or shoes and live in my own flat and buy myself peaches from the farmer's market on Saturdays.
I worried that I would never go to Africa, and live in an orphanage and teach children how to read, or treat anyone medically, or go to my own book signing.

I don't worry anymore.
Kevin is my greatest side-kick ever.

When I run out of money in Paris, or lose my job in New York, and need someone to buy me breakfast during my book signing, he will be the one lifting me up, bailing me out, healing my wounds.

I'm glad I get to take my best friend along on the adventures that are coming, because now I feel like my dreams and his dreams are ours. There is no distinction.

p.s. this is beautiful.


Alycia (Crowley Party) said...

I had these same worries, and so did my husband before we were married. We sat down and discussed about all the things we wanted to do. We realized that there is now reason those things can't happen... I mean why not? People make a choice to decide how the lives will be. You have the freedom to do whatever you want... together :)

Dawn said...

i concur with alycia.
together you can have your own adventures.
while my husband and i decided to do the children adventure quicker than most, i know that soon enough we'll have our own adventures touring the world.

July said...

Aw this makes me happy :) you are too sweet!
Being from Paris, I appreciate the reference. Macarons are my all time favorites:)

MyLittlePhotographs said...

This is so sweet, I feel the same way about Andre..Great guys are worth our time;)

Jessica said...

cute! and..i just talked to your husband in the library. he's neat, so you'll have adventures.

Love Cami. said...

my heart is smiling.

ps. i waaas going to utah.. and then i remembered what being responsible felt like. :/

Michelle said...

Lawsy woman, that video you linked has tears streaming down my face. Beautiful.

Aubrey said...

This IS beautiful. This post made me feel so happy and inspired. I always worried the same way until now.

Half Dressed said...

It's so nice to read such a happy story like yours. It;s so special to find someone to take on your adventures with :)

L x
Half Dressed

andrea said...

Way to go :) it's all in your own perspective :) "it's not where you go or what you do, it's who is beside you that counts."

bryn said...

I don't know you but I feel like I do. LOVE this

Carmella said...

this made me smile!

i'm so happy for you, mandy!

katrina said...


JMay said...

This post made my heart happy :-)

Marriage is the best when you are married to your best friend!

BethanySusan said...

I love this post. After I watched that video (and cried) and came back to read it again, it is even better. Thank you for the reminder to never take the 'same ol' love for granted.

Lovely Little Nest said...

Love this, and couldn't agree more ~ with your take on marriage, not the nay-sayers, of course! :)

jasmine said...

that's really really sweet.

and thaaaaaaank you for spelling macarons correctly!!!

shopgirl said...

This post is just wonderful. I can't agree with you more about everything that you said. This post read like a poem too which made it all the more special.

Great blog!

Rambles with Reese

Kylie said...

Mandy this is so cute, i had chills reading it! Hope you are loving married life - I have several friends that worry these same thoughts, would you mind if I quoted you?

Jenni said...

What a sweet and happy post!! LOVE your blog! And YOU, my dear, are beautiful!

I've been married 8 months now, and I have to say, it is FABULOUS. Better than I imagined. Don't ever give up on your dreams; just always be very honest with each other about what those dreams are. There's no reason you shouldn't be able to have all, or at least some, of those things that you want.

I really look forward to following you in the future! :)