I mentioned before that I met Kevin as a camp counselor and he was the health counselor. He told me the first day we met that he was studying Neuroscience and wanted to be a doctor. I thought that was charming and romantic and brave. I pictured marrying a Derek Shepherd - neurosurgeon extraordinaire. (I may have also pictured Dr. Jack Shepherd and Dr. Doug Ross (George Clooney) which I cannot be entirely blamed for, thanks to three of my favorite television shows.) I never pictured the endless amounts of homework, EMS, research, volunteering and time away from me.
And although I sometimes complain to him about his career goals, I can't imagine him doing anything different. When I was a counselor, one of my girls got sick. I remember so vividly Kevin running across campus with his medical bag to see her. He was so gentle. I remember him feeling her forehead, and checking her temperature, and asking her questions. I already loved him so much at that moment. I also witnessed some hilarious moments - a boy who came to Kevin because his fingers hurt. Then he said, "I'm not the most athletically inclined you see, and that may be why my fingers hurt." Another boy told Kevin that dancing in a big group he "Hurt his jewels," right in front of me... Kevin laughed and gave him some expert medical advice I'm sure. He has stopped the bleeding on my sister's finger when she cut it chopping carrots, and when my dad asked if Kevin has learned how to give great "medical massages" in his medical training Kevin replied "Yes of course," trying so hard to keep a straight face. I will never forget seeing Kevin kneeling over my dad giving him a massage.
Then there was the time when I got sick. It was my first day of finals last year and I had my hardest Italian test. Even though Kevin had two tests that day, he came over in the morning and held my hair back while I threw up. He drove me to my exam and told me to call him the second I was done. I had to leave early I was so sick, and I could barely climb up the stairs to get to his car. He left his car, found me, picked me up, and carried me to the car while I sobbed about my test. He took me home, bundled me up in my covers, and came back with cold Sprite, and a pile of movies and books to help me feel better.
And so even though I feel selfish sometimes, and I want Kevin all to myself and sometimes wish he would decide to do something that took less school, time and commitment - I realize that I would be denying so many people the opportunity to be treated by Kevin. One of the most gentle, and kind person I have ever met.
So you win medical school. He's mine first, but I guess we can share.
photo by Cody Buell
22 comments:
i love this. especially when you said he found you and picked you up because you were so sick... ah adorable!!
aww so sweet!
I don't blame you though, it must be hard to share him with all that work! At least you are way busy too, and not waiting around at home.
o man I have the same problem. I mean not medical school but I always have a hard time sharing my husband with anyTHING or anyONE.
very cute. your kevin seems like quite the catch!
awww i loved this!
it is definitely a sacrifice for both the HUSBAND and WIFE!
best of lucky miss but you hit it dead on.
what you love so much about kevin is what he is meant to share with others!
sounds like he is a very special GUY
:)
Mandy, I have to tell you, if I were able to write my thoughts as beautifully as you just did, they would be saying the exact same thing. My new husband is going to be a doctor as well and I cannot imagine him doing anything else. But it's daunting! Especially when I finally convince myself it won't be as bad as I think, and then someone comes back and reinstates that fear in me yet again. I've known since the day we met, too.
I knew Kevin when we worked in the lab together and I remember thinking he and my now husband would probably get along so well, since they have so much in common. It made me chuckle when he saw a picture of my husband and said they've even played basketball together before at the RB. haha.
What schools is he applying for? What semester would he be going to start? Once they are both in we are definitely going to have to be
Ooh... you poor dear. It is such a blessing and such a curse to have an intelligent, driven, gifted spouse. I understand! My husband, who is already crazy busy as it is, just decided he wants to go to law school, so my life is going to resemble yours very soon! The reward will be sweet though - only those willing to make some sacrifices will reap the greatest rewards! :)
aw this is just so sweet :)
And when I cut my finger trying to get the dregs from the can of sweetened condensed milk...Kev is nice, keep him :)
oh man, another Heather commented--how are you going to tell us apart? :) I laughed so hard that Kevin gave your dad a massage--how long ago was that? I wouldn't be surprised if your dad still asked him that on the first meeting, haha. I loved this post though, and he will be a great doctor! Hopefully we will live close together so he can be our doctor too. Mitch could be your lawyer I guess...so sweet though. There is nothing like having him hold your hair back while you throw up that makes you know he loves you huh?
Lovely post. I totally know where your coming through, there are so many aspects in life which you have to tackle as a couple. Work/training splits me and my boy up a lot, but it has to be done so we can achieve what we want to professionally. But it doesn't mean it's easy.
L x
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I've never met your Kevin, but he seems so sweet! I'm so happy you got a good one girl! You are so good at expressing your thoughts through writing, it makes me a little jealous sometimes. It's very selfless of you to share your husband...I have a very hard time with that. haha loved all of the cute little stories.
How incredibly SWEET. Every time I read your posts I'm constantly going awwww, awwww, aw... I think I did it 6 times while reading this one. The photograph is beautiful, your hubby is very handsome!
Have a great weekend Love:)
oh mandy, how i love this. i have a feeling i might relate to this one day too - but that's only if i'm really lucky in about a year (and one week - but whose counting?) haha.
Mandy I LOVE your blog! You are such a talented writer.
i know how your feeling. Trav's schedule doesn't put him home until 10pm every night!! I hate it!
i of course wouldn't change a thing. i love being married. but i feel like i got married to be together; morning and night, yet i see him less than ever.
well well such is life. At least this time will be brief and worth it once school is finished.
Mandy! I love these stories! I can only imagine what a commitment that is, and I am proud of both of you. (Can I be proud even though we're not related?)
Wonderful post!
loved reading this. my husband owns his own business and i feel like it has taken over his life, so i kind of know how you feel. it's not easy having your husband away from you so much. but i agree, it will definitely be worth the sacrifice!!
i think about landon all the time in his future career. suits and ties everyday. he works his booty off doing construction while he goes to school and i'm so excited for him to come home clean everyday, and so is he!
I kinda know how you feel!! My husband wants to be an engineer and since having a baby he has to go part time because he needs to work full time. It sucks thinking of all the schooling he will have to do, but yours is a lot longer! I feel your pain!!
That is the sweetest post. What a wonderful man to come hold your hair up while you throw up, and pick you up from finals, and put you first even when he's stressed. That is very admirable. :)
aww, what a sweet post! that's nice that you are so honest about not always being the best, most supportive wife. but kudos to you for trying to rise above it! my husband works 60 hours a week and it's hard not to throw pity parties for myself when we don't get to have date night or have other couples over for dinner because he has to get up at 4am. then i remember...uhh, he's the one who has to get up at 4am and work for 12 hours straight! so it's nice to know that you have a husband who is so busy and still makes time to take care of you when you're sick. he's definitely a keeper :)
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