1.26.2011

Mean

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Why is it so easy to be mean to the people you love most?

I am on the phone all day with angry people, I work with angry people, and I am so nice to them, but when I get home it is so easy to be mad at Kevin, when he is the person who loves me most and is always there for me no matter what.

I think sometimes, that we are mean to the people who love us most, because we know that no matter what they will keep on loving us, and sometimes we take advantage of that unconditional love.

All I know is, that it is never worth it to be mean to the one person I want to spend all my time with, during the short hours we have together to spend, while I spend the rest of my time with all of those mean people, who I don't want to spend my time with, but I am still nice to them.

It doesn't really make any sense at all.

But I do know, that I am so happy to be able to say sorry to Kevin over and over - because no matter what he will never give up on me. And he always forgives me. (Even when -especially when I don't deserve it.)

Please tell me I am not the only one who does this.

19 comments:

Griffin and Gretchen said...

o geez me too. what an awful thing. I always end up being mad at myself for wasting the little time we have each night, being mad.
i'm glad i'm not the only one.
lovely picture

Sist and Sist said...

I do the same thing! That third paragraph hits home with me so much!

She Loves To Make said...

This is so true! A good reminder...thanks.

Mrs. Nelson said...

You are not the only person out there that feels like this. You said it perfectly. I am so guilty of taking out my anger on my husband sometimes, especially on the drive home from work because I am so frustrated and hurt by all the angry callers and people I work with or deal with on a daily basis. I have been working on trying to leave work at work, and home and home. Being with my husband at night is my favorite time of the day, and it is so easy to take that for granted. Thanks for the reminder sweet girl. I love this post!

Caroline Henley said...

This is so true! It really is just easier to be mean to people we love because we feel more comfortable with them... which is also a good thing bc we take all our problems and small victories to them as well though because we are so comfortable with them!

Shalyn said...

Ugh- so true. Sad to say, I am guilty. The way you put it was perfect- we know their love is unconditional and we take advantage of it! My husband and I are really trying not to bring school/work home with us but that is so hard!

Rissy said...

I hate admitting this, but I do that to my dear sweet Momma. And she points it out to me... thank goodness for her!

Caroline said...

I needed to read something like this today. I know, sometimes it is easy to be mean to the ones you love most but this post is such a good reminder not to be. Thank you lady!!! XO!

Emma said...

i am terribly grumpy to my husband a lot. i hate it. i really need to try harder not to take everything out on him.

Diana Smith said...

I always take out my anger and frustration on my husband because I know he will be there for me no matter what! It sucks, I hate it, but life can get so tough!

david-and-emily said...

I can TOTALLY relate. this happens all the time to me! I feel like I need to dump all of the crap from my day on poor Dave...its something I am definitely working on.

Prix ° said...

Sweet post.

Julie Carol Standley said...

what a great reminder... thanks!

Amanda Bolton said...

You are definitely not the only one!! I think about this a lot and how easy it is for me to be mean to my husband. He still loves me no matter what! Glad I am not the only one :)

Amanda said...

ugh. We all do this. We all come home after a long day of being bothered and talking to rude people and then dump it all on the people who we love most in the world. The people who agreed to love us and give their lives to be with us. Sadly, we do and yet, they forgive and we promise to try harder at taking a deep breath when we're done with the day so that we can enjoy each other's company.

I'm glad I'm not alone in this either. Let's both try harder to not be yucky to our husbands...okay? :)

Destined For Now said...

Definitely not the only one. It's hard to reign in those feelings and be more understanding.

Autumn said...

I work with my kids with special needs all day and then I have to call Devin because that is our only means of communication right now and by the time we talk I feel grumpy and exhausted.

It's no fun, but if we learned how to be cordial all of the time we wouldn't have anything to learn.

Ana* said...
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Ana* said...

I'm sure we can all relate at some point. You're not the only one my dear friend, this post speaks so much truth.